The preeminent annual hunt for men is "MenStuff." This year's hunt ended Feb. 29, so you have rather a long wait until the next one. Still, bookmark their page to keep abreast of news. http://menstuff.stuff-sl.com/
While you are waiting, many hunts with more general themes also have items for men. Keep up to date on all the major hunts here: https://slhunts.wordpress.com/
Quite a few of us girls keep up with SL fashion by following a selection of fashion blogs. You guys can do the same. A Google search on "SL Men's Fashion" will find many of them, but here is a shortcut. Visit the SL Male Fashion Feed for a long list of male fashion blogs and related links. http://malefashionfeed.info/
There are several places where you can go to see an item or two from each of a large number of participating creators. The Men's Department, a showcase that is male-oriented, can be found here: http://themensdeptsl.com/
Though they've closed their dedicated in world freebie store, Fabulously Free in SL ("FabFree") remains an incredible source of information about freebies. Their blog allows you to filter by categories, and the Men's category has over 2,000 entries! You can join the FabFree group in world too, to get a notice when someone runs across a new freebie. https://fabfree.wordpress.com/category/mens/
The various bargain hunter programs...Sixty Linden Weekends, Secret Wednesdays, 55L Thursdays, My 60L Secret, and so on...all generally have at least a few men's items. You can join their groups and get a weekly list of all the offerings.
Although I own one and sometimes use it, I'm not the greatest fan of mesh bodies. I think the improvements which they offer over the classic avatar body are incremental at best, and come at the expense of having to deal with a whole new set of configuration controls. I think it's very easy for a guy to look super hot with a classic avatar body, and it's a lot cheaper too. Still, if you really want to jump on the Mesh body bandwagon, the best place for mesh body and body part reviews is here: http://meshbodyaddicts.com/mesh-body-reviews/mens-bodies/
Most large hair stores in SL have a selection of styles for men. In addition, many styles can be worn by either men or women, as you will see from some of the advertising pictures in the stores. Don't be afraid to try on a "woman's" hair style...it might look great on you! I was in Alli&Ali the other day, and noticed that they have a very large selection of men's hair. http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Wonderland%20Beach/155/127/24
I've always advocated making your own shape, with the Appearance sliders. It may take some time and tweaking, but it costs you nothing. If you go this route, I would make the following suggestions...but feel free to ignore them if you wish, it's YOUR body!
- Keep your height under 2.5 m. at most. Unless your girlfriend is super tall, then you may want to go a few cm. over her height.
- Don't overdo the shoulders and biceps. Personally, I find a flat tummy and a six pack to be way sexier than apelike arms.
- To avoid short little T-Rex arms, you'll need to go further to the right with the arm length slider than you might think. Stand up, let your hands hang at your sides. Notice how far down they go.
- Neatly trimmed facial hair is sexy. Big, bushy lumberjack beards are not.
There are free shapes available that many designers use as their models for making Mesh clothing. These will tend to fit Mesh quite well. Get them here: https://marketplace.secondlife.com/p/Standard-Sizing-Package-Updated-Male-Female/2894727
You'll probably need some minor tweaks to your shape, especially the facial features, to get the best results from any given skin. This is one reason why it's important to try the demo version before buying a skin. Here are some places to check out:
Again, don't overdo it with the size. I don't find it very exciting when a fellow's tool goes in my front and pokes out my back. Ouch. I also must give Two Thumbs Down to the "On Duty" product...I don't appreciate being "made pregnant" without my approval or consent.
You can find genital attachments in all degrees of realism, all price ranges, and with a wide range of operating features. If your regular partner(s) use a particular system, such as Xcite, then consider getting a matching product for interoperability. Otherwise, check out the suggestions below.
Remember: Don't wear your genitals in public, even with them turned invisible. A gentleman doesn't attach his bits until the appropriate time and place.
Every woman I know is a sucker for a guy in a tux. Yeah, me too.
So there you have it, gentlemen. Now go out there and make Second Life a showcase of male Eye Candy for us gals!